“Your thoughts rewrite your brain physically. 
So be very careful of what you allow yourself to repeatedly say, it matters...A lot.”

Jay Shetty

Would you shower with mud? Would you clean your teeth with a toilet brush?
Then why would you feed your mind with negative messages?!

Fill your mind with powerful, positive thoughts. The practice of happiness is no different to other healthy habits that we have in our lives, other than it is not something we can easily see nor measure.

Anytime, anywhere

We all have conversations with ourselves, we have them during the quiet times, during the busy times, we have them during times of success and times of failure. Often there are conversations during the worst possible times that can hold us back from achieving what we want so much to achieve. We can use the conversations in our mind to achieve motivation before a sporting moment, motivation before an important business meeting or they can become a roadblock to having THAT conversation with the people that matter most.

Think back to your childhood and think how many interactions you had, how many really positive ones can you recall? How many negative ones? How many of those positive conversations shaped what and who you are today, how often have the negative ones been the reason you didn’t do something later in life?

The positive will take you forward and the negative will only hold you back. Holding onto something from your past will do you no good in the future, no matter what it is and how important it was at the time.

So what happens if you say screw it, I want my baggage, my negative baggage...because it's me?! 

Well you can, no issues, you can keep talking to yourself that way, until the day you die but it won’t be helping…. You see, the danger of these conversations, these negative conversations in our minds is it can become a limiting belief and a negative narrative in our lives, that will without any doubt keep holding you back. At worst over a longer period it can lead to anxiety and stress, destruction of relationships and your healthy life.

Think about that: something that happened years ago, may stop you from doing something 10 years in the future.

The only way we can move forward is by letting go of the negative and create positive ones, by letting go I mean not allow it to hold you any longer, letting go by not giving it any energy. It is not about blocking your thoughts. You can't.

The power of positive conversation in a practical sense

For example the one that you love the most, how do you talk to them? Do you talk to them in a bad way? In a negative way to put them down? No (hopefully) you talk to them in an uplifting way! In a positive and energising way, an invigorating way that highlights all the good things that are going on and that's exactly how YOU should be speaking to YOU. After all if you can't speak to yourself ‘the most important person in your life” in a positive way then how are you going to do it to those around you? How are you going to create your best life, if the conversation that is playing in your head is holding you back, limiting your ability and beliefs to make progress. How can you create and nurture those relationships that you want to mean so much and be so deep, if you aren't doing that with yourself?

If you believe in any small way that you have the ability to change your future, then you must believe that it starts with how you get yourself moving towards that future. That movement starts with internal beliefs and conversation.

What can you start doing today if you want to be more positive with yourself?

Here are a few helpful tips:

Awareness

Catch yourself having the conversation. Don't stop it, but notice it is happening and bring your thoughts back to the present. Your mind is designed to have thoughts, all of the time, there is no point trying to stop them. Over time you want those negative thoughts to come and go without you attaching energy and emotion to them. If the negative thoughts are from the past, they don’t belong in your present and future. Think to yourself, these negative conversations, how are they helping me live my best life? How are they helping me move forward? How good will my life be if they play no part in it?

Affirmations

Great way to end the day, spend 5 mins in a quiet place and write down in a journal and/or tell yourself about all the awesomeness you have done that day, importantly the great things you are going to do tomorrow. Brilliant way to end the day on a positive note, sets the tone for the following day.

Gratitude

Practice having gratitude for what is happening in your life. If you are grateful it is impossible for the mind to be negative in that moment. Give it a go over the course of a week, see if there is a shift in your mind and the start of more positive conversations.

Move forward

Get out of your seat and move your body, walk around the house, then the block, then longer each day. The body and mind love forward momentum and this action releases Serotonin which contributes to wellbeing and happiness, this in turn can help with your positive mindset in general. As hard as it is sometimes, getting your body and mind going helps.

“If my mind can conceive it and my heart can believe it - then I can achieve it.”
Muhhammad Ali

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